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POP INTERVIEW: Brian Cuban Talks To Katie Couric About Being A Man With An Eating Disorder

With his appearance on a national US TV show, he will no longer be the “brother of…” someone or the guy who was picked on in school. Cuban will be a role model to other men who have the same problems right now. His book is one of the rare reads where you really relate to the person no matter what walk of life you come from.

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Shattered Image author Brian Cuban just appeared on Katie Couric’s talk program, Katie. Appearing on a special themed episode with Demi Lovato, Cuban talked about being a man with an eating disorder.

With his appearance on a national US TV show, he will no longer be the “brother of…” someone or the guy who was picked on in school. Cuban will be a role model to other men who have the same problems right now. His book is one of the rare reads where you really relate to the person no matter what walk of life you come from.

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How did the audience react to you? Did you talk with them between filming?
It was great! Katie was very professional and a great interview. She let me talk and gave me free range to elaborate when needed. She is a class act. I never really even focused in on the audience so I don’t know how they reacted. I was looking at Katie focused in on the questions she was asking me. I had a sense that there was an audience but totally zoned that out when I sat down. There was really no opportunity to speak with them. It was three segments shot back to back so it was very busy.

Did you get to do anything else exciting or meet interesting people on your last trip to NYC? Demi Lovato, right?
Demi Lovato was part of the eating disorder series but was not at my shoot. I was told she was shooting the next day due to scheduling issues. I met very interesting people. Author Susan Barry, who lost her son to anorexia, as well as Dr. Theodore E. Weltzin, who is a renowned expert on male eating disorders. I did not get to do anything else. It was a really quick trip. They bring you in the evening before, you pack up your luggage and head over with it to the studio the next morning. When it’s over your luggage is there waiting and a driver takes you back to the airport. Other than going to the shoot, I never left my hotel. I travel pretty regularly to NYC, so not getting to do anything that trip was no big deal.

Are people still surprised that men can suffer from eating disorders and self esteem issues? And who is more in denial of this: men or women?
Not suprised at all. Our society places so much emphasis on body image and physical perfection. Men are not immune. I suspect even Clint Eastwood has fat days. The pressure is much more intense media wise than when I was growing up way before Al Gore invented the Internet. (That’s a joke.) There were no airbrushed digital images back then There were only three television stations.

Have you spoken at any schools since your book came out?
Yes, I speak regularly to high schools about the effects of bullying.

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How are you going to inspire young people by telling your true story beyond the book? I hate to say this…not everyone in high school reads outside of class.
Just word of mouth. All I can do is just keep spreading the word that those suffering are not alone and there is hope for recovery through speaking, media and my book. It’s one person at a time. Hopefully, as more an more people realize that there is no shame in stepping forward and admitting these issues publicly or privately in treatment, we will one day reach a critical mass where men’s body image issues and eating disorders will be as mainstream as women’s. This will result in more realistic media portrayal, better insurance coverage and a more extensive national conversation .

Do you have to make an effort every day to be healthy?
Absoutely. I still have unthealthy thoughts. I just process them differently. It took many hours in a shrink’s office and dealing with the shame of my childhood to get there. Recovery is a process even now. there is good days and bad days. I just try to keep the forward motion going. :o)

What is the best way to cope with bullying?
By addressing it proactively and not simply coping with it. Our children have to be taught by example how to respond appropriate to bullies within their genetic/psychological predispositions. Two of the keys are compassion and voice. We should teach our children to have compassion for others and have a voice for those who are bullied. It’s ok to say that’s not ok. It all starts at home.

How can someone prevent becoming a bully or bullying back the person who is mean to you?
I’m not sure what that means but I will take a stab. I don’t think children make conscious choices to “become bullies” There can be many reasons for it. I became a terrible bully at a point in my life. In my case it was a self defense mechanism from being bullied severely as a child over my weight and as a means of acceptance in my mind. If I became the bully first then not only would I not get bullied again but I would be accepted by the cool kids who bullied me. It of course does not work like that. I wasn’t accepted and it made me only feel worse about myself. I think that instilling compassion and voice as well as a good sense of self in our children is a good start in providing them the framework to not become a bully.

Since I met you, you’ve gotten on a national daytime talk show and received plenty of positive reviews on your book. What next? Are you hitting up Rodeo Drive with Paris Hilton, as seen in People Magazine? Are you still going to talk to me when you get a Hollywood Walk of Fame star?
Nah. I am a homebody. Most days are spent hanging out at home with my girlfriend, my dog Peanut and cat Useless. I left all that party and “be-seen” stuff behind when I left the drugs and alcohol behind. I’ve learned to be who I really am: Boring Brian hanging out at home. You seem cool. I’d hang out at Starbucks. :o)

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LISTEN: Britney Spears Wants Her Life Back – Full Testimony Details Claims Of Prolonged Abuse

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For the first time, Britney Spears is speaking publicly about the conditions surrounding her conservatorship. In a powerful 23 minutes, she claimed the conservatorship does way more harm than good, detailing punishments and bullying from her father and a team of people on her payroll.

The full testimony is below.

In one instance she referred to her previous statements to her social media following where she claimed she was ‘okay’ and ‘happy,’ revealing that the statement was a lie.

“Now I’m telling you the truth, OK? I’m not happy. I can’t sleep. I’m so angry it’s insane.”

Another hearing is scheduled for July, but the exact next steps remain unknown.

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Get The Look! A Buyer’s Guide To Brian Balthazar’s Philadelphia Home Redesign

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As the world was forced to spend more time at home, Brian Balthazar found himself in a position where he had sold a house before the lockdown and had to find a new one.

“We sold our home with all the furniture in it, so not only did we find ourselves struggling to find a new place, once we found one we didn’t have any furniture to put in it.”

And so, Brian and partner Dennis got resourceful, turning to refurbishing and buying store floor models. They were inspired to make bold, fun choices in color and style when they started shopping around for wallpaper.

Below is the segment as it appeared on the Today Show, and further down, a rundown of where you can find the pieces or ones with a similar look!

THE DINING ROOM

Let’s start with the Dining Room!

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Brian saysThe dining room was the first space we wanted to do. I haven’t had a true dining room since I was a kid, and I’ve always wanted a big table for dinner parties! There were no tables within the price range we wanted, so we found a floor model at one of our favorite go-to stores, Arhaus. We easily saved 75 percent on this table by getting the one that they weren’t going to carry anymore. The chairs are from Wayfair.  On each side of the fireplace (not seen in the photo, but visible in the Today Show video) are two black tall lanterns flanking the fireplace. I got them at Target. I can’t currently find them on their app, but similar versions pop up every year. Get thee to Homegoods! Homegoods and Homesense (same parent company) are my go-to spots for home accessories for virtually every room in the house. You never know what you’re going to find, which is part of the fun.

But let’s focus on the real WOW element to this room – the wallpaper! This pattern is called Bellewood, by RebelWalls.   As you will soon see, I’m sort of obsessed with their patterns. To me, this room is magical with the added whimsy of this forest pattern. (They also have a more muted version with grays and even one with blues.) I also love that by hanging the paper from the chair rail up, you almost get the feeling that you’re standing on a balcony overlooking the forest. I surrounded the whole room with this paper, which I love, but you could easily add the same magical feeling by just doing one feature wall. Their website shows how it can translate to a bedroom or office. You might be intimidated by hanging wallpaper but don’t be! This pattern has so much going on that it really looks perfect when it goes up!

ON TO THE GUEST BEDROOM!

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Brian says: The guest bedroom is on the top floor of the house, so it’s got roof lines on two sides that make it a tricky space to navigate if you’re not careful. The planning of this space alone resulted in a few bonked heads. On the upside, the wall where the bed goes is tall, so it was an obvious place to create some visual pop. Again, the wallpaper takes the spotlight.  Called “Nude Roses,” also by RebelWalls, I love this design. Floral wallpaper was ‘big’ in popularity back in the 1920s when this house was built, but the patterns at that time were smaller, repeated more often, and were often really bold in color. This interpretation is so fun to me! Gone are the small roses in favor of oversized blooms, and the bold colors are more subdued pink and gray hues, with touches of dark green and creamy whites.

While roses can inherently feel feminine, the plaid bedding (30 dollars for a queen set from Target) are a surprising complement that keeps everything from feeling a little stereotypical. The side tables are mismatched – partly because we didn’t want to go too “matchy=matchy” – but also to save some money – the one on the left side (hard to catch here) was from West Elm. Normally $199, we got it for half off as the floor model. The one on the right we found in the trash. It was perfectly fine, clearly someone had just gotten tired of it! Nothing some disinfectant can’t fix. That gave us some extra money to spend – To reduce the softeness we went with industrial lamps and edison bulbs. The lamps  are called “Ginyard,” from Wayfair. The headboard was on sale at Arhaus. The dark gray takes balances out the pink hues well. The pillows are from Target and Homegoods.

For the 360 degree view of this room, watch the Instagram reel below!  You’ll see the dresser, on sale for $599 from Arhaus, a lamp from Homegoods, and mobiles from Amazon which we fashioned into a ‘piece of art’ that keeps you from hitting your head on the angled wall opposite the bed. Watch the video to check it out!

 

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THE GAME ROOM

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Brian says: The idea for the basement game room was to create a space that feels like a lounge you might find if you went out with friends. When you go into this basement it definitely feels like you’ve gone someplace unique! Believe it or not, I found out the Today Show had invited me to to record my house tour just a few days in advance, and so we turned around this spot in just THREE days! There was literally no pool table at the time, (although it had already been scheduled to come on Friday, the wallpaper came on Saturday, (as well as the floor tiles!) and by Sunday we were covered in paint and glue and drinking wine to celebrate it’s completion! I recorded the final video that Monday.

Some people might not think to take a bright basement and make it dark, but that was our first instinct. Clubs are dark and moody, and we wanted this to feel like that. We painted the walls Wrought Iron by Benjamin Moore, which is a very dark gray that seems to take on different hues based on where you paint it and the light that shines on it. We painted the ceiling black. This was Thursday night! Then Friday the pool table came. The floor tiles (“Tweed Indeed” in black by Flor) hadn’t arrived until the next day, so when they did arrive I meticulously trimmed four tiles to fit around the pool table legs so it looks like they were there the whole time. I had ordered the pool table online weeks before from PoolTables.com and by sheer coincidence it was scheduled to arrive in time for me to shoot the redesign. This was the second time I have ordered a pool table from them (which was initially scary because you’re not even seeing it beforehand!) but it always arrives in perfect condition to your specific selections. I love that the felt jet black and keeps things dark and moody. In the time that has passed since this photo was taken, I’ve added more of the carpet tiles to make the carpeted floor area darker and bigger.

But once again, the wall mural steals the show in a marvelous way! This mural is called “A Priori” from Rebelwalls, and is inspired by The Allegory of Divine Providence and Barberini Power, a famous fresco by Italian artist Pietro da Cortona. Fitting, because this house is Italian in style on the outside. You can’t see it from this photo but the wallpaper runs up part of the ceiling as well. It truly gives the room a wow factor when you enter it. The lamps are from Homegoods, (we’ve since added some industrial floor lamps for extra mood lighting) and the piano was something we brought with us. The bar tables are from Amazon ($72 each) and the stools we brought with us – they were discards from someone who didn’t like their original bright colors and thought they were dated! We covered them ourselves with gray plaid fabric and they’re better than they were new!

 

So there you have it! Hope you enjoyed the rooms and find something you like!

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Well Sh-t, Leslie Jordan Has Shared Three Videos Of Himself Dancing In One Week And They’re All Perfect

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Doing much better now, Leslie.

If you’ve never believed that “good things come in small packages” then you’ve never seen Leslie Jordan’s instagram. The 4’11” actor known for his iconic roles in shows like Will & Grace and American Horror Story has recently developed a whole new fanbase who loves him for his viral Instagram videos. Usually starting each video by greeting fans with “Well shit, how y’all doing?”, viewers have grown to anticipate Jordan’s hilarious recounting of stories from his time in show biz or growing up in the south. This week, however, the Tennessee native has shared 3 videos of himself dancing within 5 days and honestly it’s precisely what we all need right now.

The first video was posted on August 12th and shows Jordan taking part of the “Git up and dance challenge” which swept the internet about a year ago. Even though he is a little late, the video is still perfection.

On August 13th, Jordan does a dance to “You Can’t Stop The Beat” from Hairspray a with special guest dance partner Katie Couric!

Finally, on August 15th, Jordan does an epic “tootsie roll” and challenges Real Housewives Of Beverly Hills star, Lisa Rinna, to do the tootsie roll herself. Of course Rinna commented with a big “ON IT ❤️😂.” Who could say no to the viral star?!?

The moral of the story here is that the world is going through some tough times right now but maybe, even for a few seconds, we could all feel better if we’d just dance it out. Thanks for the inspo Leslie Jordan!

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